Hello Dr. Gottlieb, I recently found your article and book and it's like a light shining through the clouds. My 4.5 year old son has struggled with explosive anger since infancy/toddlerhood and continues to suffer as he gets older and stronger. We have explored several treatment avenues via evaluations-- sensory processing, psychiatric, parenting, but have not yet found a plan that addresses his unique situation (which I'm guessing is something you hear often, which is why you wrote your book, which I've just purchased on Amazon...)
I am reaching out to you because I believe that my 4 year old son might be struggling with anger overload. in general, he is a very intelligent, energetic, sweet but strong willed/ dominant child. He does do the "Hulk" thing up to a couple of times a day, but not every day. When he feels that he is being treated unfairly, especially when it is time to leave a situation where he is having fun, or if something is taken away from him that he wants he gets very angry. His face turns red. He will shout, say very unkind things, throw things, break things and if it he thinks he can get away with it, he will physically hit or grab people. Both his teacher's and I have noticed that there is a different look in his eyes when his anger overtakes him, and it's like he's not even there, only anger. When is anger is not stoked, he is thoughtful, caring, well mannered, and full of joyful exuberance. Since a Christmas visit with his father's family, his angry behavior has escalated at his pre-school and has become a serious problem. As he is set to start kindergarten in the fall, I would very much like to address this issue now. I believe that a therapist, specifically a behavioral therapist that specializes in pediatrics and understands this diagnosis. Any suggestions on where I should begin and which doctor or local hospital I might be able to reach out to?
Thank you for you time.