I am brokenhearted for my daughter because she loves her school, as do I. It has been very good for her in a lot of ways, and changing schools again seems very detrimental. However, her current school will not let her stay there without some very rapid changes and with limited adjustment from them. Of course, I will be contacting her play therapist again and will also obtain your manual. Here are my questions: 1.) Is there any type of daycare/school for kids like this? I need childcare for my daughter and do not want to constantly move her from school to school or have her seen as a problem child. 2.) Are there any techniques that see rapid change? 3.) Should I be open to medication for her or resist it? Advantages/disadvantages?
I need some immediate help for the daycare situation. However, I also do not want my daughter to go through the educational system with the same issues. I worry that this is a never ending cycle.
Hi, It sounds very frustrating that the current day care program is not willing to work with you on solutions, since you have made progress before with behavior modification principles at home. You might contact the special education coordinator at your local school district to see if they know of a day care program that would be willing to work with you. Also, would your school district be willing to consult with the day care director and offer advice? Many school districts offer early childhood programs to help head off problems before children enter kindergarten.
More specifically, I would try to identify the triggers; you have started to do that, for example you mention jealousy. The earlier you can identify anger situations and re-direct your child the better. It will be hard for one teacher in a large class to do this though. There would need to be an aide who can help. Also more frequent, brief rewards for self control may help. You indicate your child wants attention. Would she try to have self-control (you would need to be specific with her about what entails "self control") if she could get a hug, or earn a fun activity with an aide or with a friend?